May, 2016 – Behaviors: A Humorous look at Difficult Personality Types
By Dr. Bonnie Lyon
Here’s a tongue in cheek look at some of the character types you may encounter dealing with difficult people. Or, maybe these fit you when you are being difficult yourself? Meet the “Tank,” the “Know-it-All,” the “Yes-Person,” the “Maybe Person,” the “Nothing Person,” the “No Person” and the “Whiner”
|The Tank is the ultimate in pushy and aggressive behaviors. The Tank is confrontational, pointed and angry.|
|The Grenade is so named for a tendency to explodes in rage that has nothing to do with the circumstances. He leaves emotional shrapnel wherever he goes.|
|The Know-it-All has a low or no tolerance for correction or contradiction. They quite simply think they know it all. The Know-it-All Is motivated by a constant need for attention. They get away with a lot but you can’t fool all the people all the time.|
|The YES person||The Yes person always agrees, to avoid confrontation. This person will over promise and under-delivers. They are prone to not fully thinking through a situation or idea before agreeing. The Yes person is pleasant on the outside but seething with resentment on the inside.|
|The MAYBE person||The Maybe person will put off making decisions in case a better option comes along.
She is tentative. She may face that she’s frequently done “too little, too late” when decisions make themselves by default.
|The NOTHING person||The Nothing person is decidedly detached. They are often verbally and emotionally non-communicative. The Nothing person is frequently silent and in their own head.
|The No person
|The No person only sees despair, futility, and hopelessness in any situation. They are closed off and rigid.|
|The Whiner feels helpless and overwhelmed by an unfair world. He is never satisfied. The glass is half empty. Offering solutions may escalate the whining|
They key to dealing with difficult people lies remember that you always have choices. When it’s you being the difficult person you can stop behaving badly as soon as you become of how your behavior is negatively impacting others. When dealing with others, a bit of honesty goes a long way so that the other person can make necessary adjustments. And, as in most cases, a little humor goes a long way.